To anyone out there who happens to watch the Bachelor (I for some great reason find it a show full of relational debates, standards issues and the likes), I hope you watched tonight's After the Rose. Ironic actually because no rose was given to either girl on the season finale that occurred last night. Brad, the Bachelor, stated that this was because he didn't feel that in his heart he was meant to be with either of the two ladies. He attempted to do this in the best possible way by simply being honest but naturally, TV break-ups are never seamless and pose great risks.
What breaks my heart more than either girls' broken heart, is that women have come to think that a honest man like this is rude, mean, cruel, confused, etc. See, any woman on earth should want to have a friend like Brad who could tell you, the "girl" friend, that you should walk away from the boy you were dating because he was not falling in love with you. Many people get into relationships and never get out because they find them to be comfortable. These stories become full of the girls that say they will leave their man at 30 if he doesn't propose. They never do...they buy the house, get the dog, and never get the ring. All because, someone was not honest at the very beginning of a very comfortable period of time. People are led on by a promise of something that never existed in the first place. Fairy tales do exist, it just depends on if you are allowing your life to be one of them.
One of the ladies kept stating that he wasn't giving her an answer to why he didn't want to even continue dating her. She didn't understand how he couldn't want to keep trying it out to see if it might change. The fact of the matter was that the only answer she was willing to consider was one that involved him, her and lifetime together. He gracefully bowed out and said that he wasn't her fairytale and that she deserved a man who could have stood there on that day and solidly stated that she was his one and only.
Brad, unlike many of the men in America who will make a commitment to cohabiting years before marriage, is willing to say that his heart doesn't feel it. That kind of honesty from the get go (for those of you that forget,the show is ONLY six weeks long), or not too long into a relationship, is something that could actually create millions of great woman.
For me, I know right away if something is or isn't. It's not being rude, or not giving things a chance. My dear ladies out there, it is called INTUITION: sadly a rarely used word in today's society. That is right, we might actually know our own hearts if we ever stopped to realize that to just have the desire to fall in love was not enough. It needs to have every bit of emotion, passion, "I seriously cannot live my life without this person" infatuation that a true lifetime calls for. Men like Brad are the men that make us move on, realize that something greater is out there. And for heaven's sake, please do not go man hunting as your job. Go get your master's degree, your jurisdoctorate, take a cruise around the world. Discover why any man who cannot quickly fall in love with you is not worth you skipping out on a summer in Europe or winter of skiing in Austria.
We believe in a Great God, let Him write your Great Love Story.
(and thank Him for men that are willing to tell us we deserve better)
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